I Need You

This is my very first official blog. I feel a little hoity-toity and like I'm suddenly on a soap box for the world to hear. And while I realize that my posts will be followed by few if any, it is a position that leaves me feeling rather exposed.

I'm using my first blog as a serious cry to people everywhere. I am in the very beginning stages of writing a book. As the title of this blog indicates, the book is about infidelity. It's not your normal book about how we women can cope with the world of pornography or how prostitution and easy sex has cheapened marriage. It's not about the trials men face and how women can be supportive.

No. It's about women cheating. And not just sexually, though promiscuity on our part is on the rise. But we cheat in our hearts and minds long before there's ever any touch-- sometimes before there's even a conversation with a man. We are more emotionally needy than we typically realize. When those needs aren't met, for any variation of reasons, we (often inadvertently) seek out fulfillment. This can bleed out in a variety of ways.

The point is that we are not alone. I have talked to too many women who have had affairs who think they're the only ones-- especially Christian women. They think "A Godly wife would never do this. There must be something wrong with me. I could never talk to anyone about this." These are lies meant to keep us alone and ineffective. Ineffective as mothers, wives, friends, and essential parts of the body of Christ.

Thus the idea of the book. What I need to make this book effective is you.

I need your stories. I don't only want women to share what they have experienced, but it would be invaluable to hear the take on husbands whose wives have been through this. Also, if it's at all possible, I would like stories from grown children who were either affected by their mother's infidelity or even conceived in it.

I obviously would assume you would write me privately. For that purpose, I'm posting my e-mail address: Ltraine@gmail.com.

Some of you have already told me your story. Please take the time to write it out. I may not remember all the details, and it could blur with new stories I'll hopefully be getting in.

I am not asking for this as gossip. Please hear my heart in that I want to provide healing and comfort to women now and future who experience the trap of infidelity. Confidentiality is key in this. You can trust that I will not "spill" about your life. And I will certainly change all names when writing. I realize the trust this is requesting and the vulnerability I'm asking you to have.

I also realize that I'm asking you to relive what may be the most painful part of your life to date. It may give you a sense of relief to know that sharing your pain may stop someone else from experiencing what you have.

Please be a part in helping me create a tool to bring healing and stop destruction.